That was a crazy ride!

Oh.my.God. It has been a year since I last posted. My online dating thing kinda took off. Then between managing dating, and all the fabulous things that go along with that, (did you detect the sarcasm there??) as well as managing a house, two kids, a job, and trying to muster enough courage to get through a divorce, well, I guess time got away from me.

Anyhow....the online dating thing took off. And by took off I mean I loosely (I'll explain more later...) dated Brian the entire time, went on one more date with Dennis and went out once with Rob. I emailed and chatted with nearly 100 men. And went out with 3 of them. Three. Did I say three. That, my friends, is a 3% return on my investment. How fucking discouraging is that?!?!

Ain't nobody got time for that!

Ain't nobody.

So, as I type, I am in the midst of a break from online dating.

Here's to hoping a man just walks into my life. Drops out of the sky. Like literally. Right through my front door. Or, plop, right onto my front lawn. Because at this point about the only way I'm going to meet someone is if they break in to rob my home, come to do repair work on my home, or happen to collide grocery carts with me at the store and I tackle them and force them to converse with me.

A Second First Date

So, I had my second first date this week with Dennis. I started emailing him when I first created my online profile. I finally set up a date with him about a week ago - I had been dragging my feet because of Brian. I'm not a good 4 man planner quite yet. I will get better at it!

We had originally decided to go out for a coffee. Then I chose a place that had coffee, and wine, so I could get a drink. Then this morning he texts me and asks if I want to meet him at the bar at the hotel, because I had mentioned I liked playing pool. Yeah, I thought maybe you liked beer more than coffee, mister.

So, we met for a drink and a game of pool. I surprisingly wasn't as nervous as my first date with Brian. But that one was the first one in nearly 20 years. So, maybe this will get easier. Plus I have less expectation with this one. I have to increase my risk tolerance with men. Lower expectations on dating, higher expectations on behavior, hopefully will equal a happier me.

Dennis looked like his picture Thank God. Actually better than his picture - because no ones online dating profile picture is good unless you are of course one of those crazy people who get professional pictures for your profile. Weirdos. He was polite. He bought me drinks and paid for pool. he asked me questions about me - he actually took the time to read my profile and knew some of the things I am interested in. That was different from Brian and Michael.

We had a perfectly nice time and I will follow my rule and go on at least 3 dates with someone before making any judgements about them.

He texts me later in the evening and asks if I want to go out again and to tell him when. So, yes, we have a second date. He tells me his only regret is not kissing me at the end of the night - I tell him no regrets, there's always next time.

I'm pretty sure these men make me wait for a kiss so they can be guaranteed a second date.

Truth

Attitude Needed

A Fab First Impression

Was texting Michael yesterday. We have been texting sometimes back and forth and mostly our conversations have consisted of random questions like favorite ice cream flavor and which would you choose - Italian food or Mexican food, kind of things. So our converation went like this:

Me: "So, how many random questions does a girl have to ask before she gets to meet you in person?"

Michael: "Well, that depends on if you still want to meet after reading the answers."

Me: "I like the answers."

Michael: "Good. Maybe we could talk on the phone before meeting?"

Me: "Sure, after my kids are in bed, would that be a good time?"

Michael: "Yes."


So, kids go to bed. I drink a quick glass of wine to calm down - this crap is so nerve wracking! I text him, asking if it's a good time to talk, figuring I will then call from my land line to not use up cell minutes. And.......nothing. No response. At all.

So this is what I say to a friend

"Apparently we not talk tonight. I text and ask if it a good time and get no response!! These freakin men are too much! Loosey goosey right? No expectations....except that i expect my wine glass will be refilled - like.right.now"

 

My Thoughts Exactly...

Dating. There's men who can perform magic - disappearing acts to be exact. Is that what Heart was referring to when they sang "Magic Man"? There's men who go over the top and text you 4 times a day to ask you - how your morning is? how your day is going? how your night is going? There's men who are seemingly afraid of even committing to a first date and are just content to remain pen pals online. Yeah, right buddy, you're who I want to be with. You don't have commitment issues AT ALL

Dating.

Dating sucks. I need to adopt this guys attitude....

Starting.Now.

Dating Inspiration